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Sunday, July 19, 2015

How I Wish We Were Buddies

"It was very important day for me. I was going to perform bharatnatyam in front of an audience. I handed you the invitation card. when the curtain rolled up my eyes were searching for you.I couldn't find you. you said you were busy that day...everyday. I wanted to share those happy moments with you. how I wish we were buddies."

"I hated the morning breakfast and the dinner. when we all were together. it always started out as silent affair only to be concluded into a shouting match later. why couldn't we just talk? how I wish we were buddies."

"may be out of fear, I could never tell you how much I disliked your drinking and smoking habit. I used to cough loudly to draw your attention to the effect your smoking was having on us. when I couldn't take your drunken antics and smoke filled room any longer I hid the cigarette packets. when you found out you beat me. you never listened. how I wish we were buddies."

To most of us parenting seems to be more or less like a job. it's the next big step after marriage- having babies. "congrats you are a daddy/mom now. big responsibility on your shoulders." indeed it's a big responsibility. but who said it has to be burdening. the people who are yet to step into parenthood may have an impression that it's end of the fun. parenting can be a lot of fun if done right. the society is full of various examples of parenthood- the good,bad and the ugly.
when we hear the phrase "buddy parenting" we visualize the bonding like rahul-anjali in kuch-kuch hota hai, rohit-sonu in akele hum akele tum or juhi chawla is seen having with her kid in the latest  “Kellogg’s Chocos Ke Saath Khuljaye Bachpan”ad. 

well in reality its not very different.what makes any parent a buddy parent is not only their active participation in their children's life but at the same time giving them space which many parents choose to ignore. another thing which differentiates the parenting style of buddy parents from the rest is the listening ear. they really listen to their kids, do not try to force their decision without listening and try to understand their point of view. A healthy argument is essential in any relationship.
The buddy parents know how to prioritize. for them family comes first. they give importance to family time and invest in experiences rather than material things. children can be the greatest teacher and their feedback should be valued. buddy parents make a free not fearful environment for their children.
from my personal observation and experiences I've found kids who enjoy a buddy relationship with their parents tend to be more confident,responsible & have a positive outlook to life. they are a success in social front. when I asked Aarti she can go anywhere,anytime since her parents had given her freedom. she said "freedom is a responsibility. I respect my parents and the freedom they have provided me."
In this ever changing, constantly running world it becomes all the more important to be buddies with your children. “Kellogg’s Chocos Ke Saath Khuljaye Bachpan” initiative is one of its kind and need of the hour. the mantra of buddy parenting should be adopted by every parent to form a barrier free bond with their kids & empower them to great heights.

Friday, July 10, 2015

Crush the crash diet

 It was only a few weeks left for the college to start. I was neatly packing my sweaters,jackets & hoodies back in the suitcase & taking out all the sleeveless & shorts. that's when my eyes found it- a beautiful  Summer Sleeveless Casual Western Dress. in short my fresher's dress. I quickly took it out & tried on. I was beaming with happiness & swirling it around. I moved to my dressing table to see the reflection in the mirror & compliment it. but the reflection had some different plans. the dress looked a bit forced on me. of course the dress wasn't made to give cover to my jiggly arms & flabby legs. clearly my body had been on a long relaxing winter vacation. winter time chilling out now a summertime sadness. I had to do something really fast.
 Hello crash diet! I don't know why ,maybe because of the anxiousness & urgency I signed up for crash diet. It sounded like the best way to lose the extra fat in little time. I was on a strict salad only diet. initially it felt good & felt effective but as time passed I started loathing it. I started getting irritated on small things. I was turning moody. when people were enjoying the ice creams & smoothies I was stuck with salad. in few days I couldn't bear the sight of salad anymore. I was hungry all the time. I didn't felt like doing anything. my energy level dropped. as crash diets reduce the intake of carbohydrates(rice,pasta) which are an essential source of energy & prevents from getting important nutrients & proteins for our body to work properly. it is a big NO-NO. 

when I couldn't take it anymore I loaded up on all rich in cholestrol foods. but I quickly checked myself & opted for the much better healthier choice-

Balance nutritional diet. in order to get our body to function properly healthy balanced diet is a must. it comprises of fruits,vegetables,whole grains & proteins.  to make your transition from crash diet to balanced diet more smooth & sweet, start your day with Honey Diet. mix a spoonful of Dabur honey in a glass of warm water & then voila! your battery's recharged! honey has medicinal & therapeutic qualities. it works in keeping us fitter & younger. let every morning be honey morning. 

The key to a healthy diet & hence a healthy body is eating the right amount & range of food. balanced diet means keeping a balance. Try to choose a variety of different foods from the four main food groups & drink lots of water. 

so stay away from crash diet.  go out, sweat, keep yourself hydrated & happy. say ice cream & smile! 

Wednesday, May 20, 2015

maa kasam moments

 A very good evening to you all & welcome to another incredible episode of maa kasam

since it's mother's day we have a special guest today. you may or may not know her, but I know her very well. before I introduce her let me tell you this joke that I received today on whatsapp.

                 teacher: Tell me, Johnny. Do you say prayers before eating?
                     Johnny: No, ma’am, I don’t have to. My mom’s a good cook.
my mom's a good cook too. now without any further ado let's call our guest on stage. she is a mother...yes... the world's toughest,unpaid, full time job with no retirement & no expectation of benefits.
 I-welcome mam.
mam- please call me ma.
I- ok ma. before we chat we have some pics from your childhood.

I- wow you look like yesteryear heroines from the black & white era.
ma- thank you for the compliment. I used to take good care of myself back then.
I- how were you as a kid? shy or naughty?
ma- I was naughty. me & my friends at midnight would steal potatoes from other people's farms and then make some delicious dish. we were cautious to not make the smoke from the chulha noticeable as people would get suspicious.
I-oh you were naughty. what about your daughter? has she inherited this quality of yours?
ma- the naughtiness has only multiplied. she was a talkative kid who used to often get in trouble. once she just stormed into home from school, threw her bag & wasn't saying anything. after much prodding she told that she had a fight with a girl. the girl called her mother into school who scolded her in front of the class. she said she wouldn't go to school unless I accompany her & scold that girl back.
I- how did you handled it?
ma- i went with her the next day. the girl was scared looking at me. I asked her name & talked nicely , smilingly. 
I- your daughter must not have been very happy with you?
me- she wasn't. I told her to shake hands with her & make friendship. she did as I told but back home she was furious. she couldn't understand why I didn't took a stand for her. I told her you had two  choices either to make a friend or an enemy and I am glad you chose the former. being sensible as she is, she quickly understood my point.
I- since you are from a rural background how hard was for you to manage in a metro city like Mumbai?
ma- it was definitely not easy but I met some wonderful people here who helped me gel in this city. back in village I used to wake up early morning, milk the buffaloes, collect firewood, cut grass in forest and carry it back to home, take cattle for grazing and do ordinary household chores. but here I had to learn how, where,what of shopping, making budgets,cooking different types of dishes etc. it was a lifestyle change for me. 
I- your daughter says she loves both of her parents but is closer to you than her dad. how did you built this rapport with her?
ma- as my husband works in Indian navy his job required him to stay away from us. my daughter has seen a little less of him so she became closer to me. it was a huge responsibility but I was all up for it. she was a mom crazy kid. she used to bring the house down if she woke up from deep slumber and didn't find me beside her. 
I-from our trusted sources we have learnt that you have some unusual talent. why don't you tell us about it.
ma- haha. I have a talent of re(verse)- remixing songs. I can sing any new funky song in 60s style of music. this talent of mine was discovered my daughter who happens to be your 'trusted source' too.
I- haha. on this note let's have a look at another photo of yours.
ma- I feel so embarrassed.
I- why? you look so good.
ma- actually one day I was talking to my daughter about trying new things and to never be afraid of new situations. she asked me to wear jeans. so following my words I changed into my husband's t-shirt and jeans. result is in front of you. 
I- what was your daughter's reaction?
ma- she was surprised at first then she told me to wear only jeans from now on. I asked her "did this jeans made be a better mom? "
I- what are some best moments you have spent with your daughter?
ma- I cherish every moment being a mother. I loved late night champi time. giving her coconut oil hair massage. she has long & thick hair.
I- does this champis still continue now?
ma- they do only the roles our reversed now. she helps me dye the greys in my hair. she's keeping me young.
I- we have some more photos. these look very special.

ma- the first one is my wedding photo. I was camera shy. my daughter had a habit of trying out my stuffs like walking in my sandals stumbling a few times, wearing my bindis and Bengals which waited for the moment when her hands were down to slip away. but it was my wedding lehenga which got the most appreciation and attention from her. I dressed her up in my wedding dress. she looked like a gift all wrapped up. she used to suddenly go under a transformation in that dress. the mischievous kid changed into a shy girl. 
I- you are such a lovely mother. what's your secret?
ma- no secrets. I've also made some mistakes. I learnt a lot from my mother & mother-in-law. they are both exemplary & were very strong women. I  don't believe in comparisons. I never draw comparison between my kid & some xyz person. I consider it a humiliating practice having zero motivation.  

I- our sources which you know who, has shared with us a lifeguard moment. why don't you share the story.
ma- as a trouble seeker kid during one of her daily evening swimming sessions my daughter swam to far too the deep end and was close to drowning. I quickly reacted and pulled her out. I got really scared for her. it's one of the most toughest moments of my life. I still get shivers thinking about it. the fear of losing is disastrous. I thank god that everything turned out right.

I- another photo. what do you have to say about that.
ma- aren't we a cool mother- daughter pair.

the tea had finished leaving some tea leafs behind. the sky had turned darker signalling too much time had passed. surfing through photo albums, we lost the track of time.evening turned into night. so this was a one to one with my mom in the balcony of our house with only mom and I in attendance. talking about moments we created moment of moments.   

Tuesday, March 24, 2015

Kellogg's wale Guptaji ke ghar milenge

 As they say "never say NO to breakfast".  I take that very seriously. it helps refuel our system, gives mental & physical boost.
Those people who skip breakfast I request them to go to Guptaji  Kellogg's wale Guptaji's house. what a breakfast! not the same boring breakfast like in our homes. 100 different recipes. food for every mood.
Still not convinced? OK then try this. imagine your ideal breakfast. what ingredients does it needs to have? strawberry? walnuts? sitaphal or my fave chocolate? well your wish Kellogg's command. for your chocolate cravings Kellogg's present walnut cornflakes choco balls. with love called "first crush wala nashta". I fell in love with the nashta at first sight.
It 's Kellogg's wale Guptaji ka nashta so no compromise on taste & health. first crush wala nashta is not only crunchy, melts in mouth but also healthy as it has the super important ingredient Kellogg's corn flakes.
as I said before there are varieties in Kellogg's wale Guptaji ka nashta. I say breakfasting with whole family gives the food a new taste. but of course you can't serve gossips on plate. for family breakfast time it has to be "passing the parcel waala naashta" sitaphal cornflakes. together with the family during games mixed with hassi thathaka enjoy sitaphal cornflakes.
at times it so happens that someone in the family is feeling low or refuse to eat anything except bhav. how to handle this situation? like I said before Kellogg's wale Guptaji ka nashta is food for every mood.  for all the nakhreelis or the nakhreeleys Kellogg's wale Guptaji present chapatti cornflakes chivda "the nakhre wala nashta".
office or college lunch box must-have-cornflake coconut ladoos "the tiffin wala nashta". because tiffin is meant to be shared. so share these bundle of sweets among your colleagues & have a yummilicious treat everyday. no complaints from your wife or mother about the leftovers in your tiffin. the tiffin will be finished as soon as it opens. Kellogg's wale Guptaji Ka nashta is perfect for any environment.
having a movie night? popcorn is so usual why not try something different ...more power packed. Kellogg's wale Guptaji has what you need "the movie wala nashta"- cornflake popcorn clusters. be the movie how much engrossing your taste buds will be engrossed in the cornflakes popcorn clusters.
now you'll wonder that how much time it takes to prepare such mouth watering,lip smacking snacks everyday. what if I say 10 minutes tops.no way!! yes way!! it's Kellog's wale Guptaji. that's what makes it so convenient to eat & have anytime.. Kellogg's wale Guptaji ka nashta-super healthy,super tasty & super fast! ungliyaan chat tay reh jayenge. nashta with guptaji's family. kya aap aayenge? main toh chali!
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Saturday, March 14, 2015

change for better

I was nervous. I was going to meet her after 5 years. what would be her reaction when she sees me? will she recognize me? after all I've changed a lot. I am not what I once was. sabina my best friend from the 4th std was in Mumbai. I don't know from where she found my no. but I was glad she called & that she still remembers me. 
At 4:00pm I heard somebody ringing their bicycle bell continuously. I looked out of my window for that idiot. oh my god! she hasn't changed a bit...oh she has. she looked more beautiful & all grown up.  that idiotic but sweet smile was still the same. I ran walked out of the door & smilingly went towards her. she was the excited one. she hugged me tight & said what I was expecting dreading to hear "oh my god. you've changed so much." of course I have. I changed the "changing" topic & asked why was she ringing the bell for. she said " you forgot na? we used to call each other like that when we were kids for our daily evening bike ride. remember we used to race & you always won." yeah I used to be fun as a kid. 
"I was thinking let's do it again!" she said excitedly. "what? race? no way. I've left bike riding & I don't have a bicycle." I said feeling sorry. "don't worry you take my bicycle. I'll take my neighbours".
she wasn't going to hear a no. so I went ahead with the plan. its been a long time since I will be riding a bicycle but it won't be long when she'll know I am not a fun loving person anymore. I've grown more conscious with time. I have very small circle of friends & not popular as I used to be. 
we went riding around the town. the breeze was good. after some time she looked at me & said "race". then she started pedaling much faster. I was trying to make sense of her when intuitively I too started to pedal faster & harder. soon we were racing shoulder to shoulder. I was competitive again like that 4th std me. I was shouting while ringing the bell at people to give me way. I had reached the end ,I had won. I was out of breath ,sweaty but it felt so good. soon Sabina reached me & just smiled. she hugged me & said "you have changed & you are better than ever." I felt more relieved than good. she understands me . she knew me more than I knew myself. she made me shine in my own eyes. she grew the seed of optimism in me & now whenever I feel low I just revive that moment in my mind.