"It was very important day for me. I was going to perform bharatnatyam in front of an audience. I handed you the invitation card. when the curtain rolled up my eyes were searching for you.I couldn't find you. you said you were busy that day...everyday. I wanted to share those happy moments with you. how I wish we were buddies."
"I hated the morning breakfast and the dinner. when we all were together. it always started out as silent affair only to be concluded into a shouting match later. why couldn't we just talk? how I wish we were buddies."
"may be out of fear, I could never tell you how much I disliked your drinking and smoking habit. I used to cough loudly to draw your attention to the effect your smoking was having on us. when I couldn't take your drunken antics and smoke filled room any longer I hid the cigarette packets. when you found out you beat me. you never listened. how I wish we were buddies."
To most of us parenting seems to be more or less like a job. it's the next big step after marriage- having babies. "congrats you are a daddy/mom now. big responsibility on your shoulders." indeed it's a big responsibility. but who said it has to be burdening. the people who are yet to step into parenthood may have an impression that it's end of the fun. parenting can be a lot of fun if done right. the society is full of various examples of parenthood- the good,bad and the ugly.
when we hear the phrase "buddy parenting" we visualize the bonding like rahul-anjali in kuch-kuch hota hai, rohit-sonu in akele hum akele tum or juhi chawla is seen having with her kid in the latest “Kellogg’s Chocos Ke Saath Khuljaye Bachpan”ad.
well in reality its not very different.what makes any parent a buddy parent is not only their active participation in their children's life but at the same time giving them space which many parents choose to ignore. another thing which differentiates the parenting style of buddy parents from the rest is the listening ear. they really listen to their kids, do not try to force their decision without listening and try to understand their point of view. A healthy argument is essential in any relationship.
The buddy parents know how to prioritize. for them family comes first. they give importance to family time and invest in experiences rather than material things. children can be the greatest teacher and their feedback should be valued. buddy parents make a free not fearful environment for their children.
from my personal observation and experiences I've found kids who enjoy a buddy relationship with their parents tend to be more confident,responsible & have a positive outlook to life. they are a success in social front. when I asked Aarti she can go anywhere,anytime since her parents had given her freedom. she said "freedom is a responsibility. I respect my parents and the freedom they have provided me."
In this ever changing, constantly running world it becomes all the more important to be buddies with your children. “Kellogg’s Chocos Ke Saath Khuljaye Bachpan” initiative is one of its kind and need of the hour. the mantra of buddy parenting should be adopted by every parent to form a barrier free bond with their kids & empower them to great heights.